Letting Go...

I'm a senior. I'm single. And I'm struggling with it. I'm in the midst of that time of life where everyone is planning for the future, and for most of them that means being with someone. A lot of my friends are thinking about the possibility of engagement, or at least in a long-term relationship. I'm glad for them. I'm happy to rejoice with them and the joy they've found in their relationship. It is a blessing and a gift from God and I am excited that they have found love and meaning in each other, and are no longer in search.

But there comes a price with friends in relationships. Friends in relationships are in relationships. They have to devote time to spend with their significant other, and sometimes that means time that you might have had. It's hard. It's a frustrating thing to get turned down because you're friend is going on a date, or needs some time to spend with their person. It's frustrating to feel like you have to occupy your time not thinking about relationships. Not desiring relationships, not idolizing them. Not letting yourself think about them. Or the things you could do to be in one. It's hard to not let it get to you. To not let it consume you.

But, relationships are good. They are a BLESSING. But I'm the first to admit that I don't always see them as a blessing. I see them as a loss. And that is unfair and untrue.

It stems from a deep fear in me that tells me that I'm going to be alone for the rest of my life. The fear that I will never find someone to spend my life with and I will forever come home to an empty house and no one to fall asleep next to. It stems from the fear that all my friends will leave me once they're married or in a relationship. That once they've found someone, I am the last on their list of priorities. That I no longer matter because I'm single.

And I'm here to say that tonight I learned something crucial. That that is an outright LIE. That is ABSOLUTELY untrue. Your friends will not abandon you or forsake you when they are in a relationship. It will change, but it does not mean that you are not valued.

And the ABSOLUTE most important thing: That Christ is with you through it all. You will never be alone because he is ALWAYS with you. Always. No matter what. Through the pain, the heartbreak, and the emptiness you feel, He is with you through it all. Despite what the devil tells you, you matter. You are DEEPLY loved. You are more loved and more important to Him than you could ever imagine.

So rest in that. Believe you are not alone because He is your all. Without Him, you would be nothing. Because of Him you are saved. And loved. And valued. You are redeemed.





Cling to the Crucified, Jesus the man who died.
Cling to the Crucified, Jesus the King.