Expectations.

Cassie and Alex's relationship has problems from the beginning, of over-dependence and expectations. Learning more about Alex's past and the family trauma that he grew up with makes Cassie feel like she needs to take care of him because no one else can. And because of his dependence on her for support and self-esteem, she begins to expect herself to be better for him and be everything he needs, which is simply not possible. Especially given the amount of time that they have known each other. And both of them expect so quickly to spend the rest of their life with each other when they don't even know everything about the other.
Simply said, there's no way you could be prepared to marry someone after three days of knowing them. Even if you're completely head-over-heels in love with them, you should have the rationality to see how you fit into their life before expecting to spend the rest of your life with them. I don't believe Cassie and Alex thought through all of these things before getting engaged and then just as quickly married. It simply isn't smart or practical to move so quickly with such an important relationship.
And all of this isn't an excuse to get divorced either. But when you go into marriage, you should know the tendency's of the other person, their irritations and their favorite things, and how they act in normal life. But because they didn't spend a minute in L.A. until they got married, they had no chance for this kind of relationship.
They kind-of trapped themselves by moving so quickly, but now how should they deal with that? Does this give them an excuse to divorce? Or does her fear for her life give her that excuse? Even in the first few weeks of their relationship/engagement, he abused her in his sleep because he though she was someone else. How do you deal with that? Would you sleep in separate beds? Try to fix it, or get out while you still have your life?


It's a really hard concept coming from this modern culture of simply slipping away or escaping whenever you want to, and putting it in the context of the Bible and a covenant relationship. But would Cassie have gone through with the marriage if she knew where it was going to end? If she knew her life was in danger, would she have still tried to save him? Probably. But is that the kind-of love God wants us to experience? Or does He love us enough to not let us try to be the savior for someone that can't be saved except by His grace?